A workshop with Gulya Diyarova - Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) in Action, Road Map to Emotional Healing

An outline of the theory and practice of Emotionally Focused Therapy with couples and individuals.


·         Do your clients question if their partners are there for them?

·         Do they wonder about their partner's accessibility?

·         Do they question the responsiveness of their partner when they need them?

This attachment-based, experiential, humanistic and systemic model offers a comprehensive theory of adult love, as well as a structured therapeutic "road map" not only to conflict reduction, but also the healing of damaged attachment bonds. A clear working manual is presented with the aim of creating safe emotional connection between partners which lasts.

The model recognises that relationship distress results from an actual, or perceived threat to the basic adult need for safety, security and closeness in intimate relationships. Couples in conflict tend to lose themselves in reactive emotions or withdraw into non-responsiveness and shutting down. Both behaviours become part of a negative cycle that leaves the partners hurt, alone and disconnected.

Using the power of emotion as a target and agent of change, EFT focuses on helping partners re-structure the emotional responses that maintain habitual negative interactional patterns. Once vulnerable emotions are owned and shared by each partner, trust  and meaningful connection can be re-established in a safe way through the  ‘corrective emotional experience’ (Frank) that occurs during the session.

A substantial body of research outlining the effectiveness of EFT now exists, with research studies finding that 70-75% of couples move from distress to recovery, and around 90% show significant improvement.

This Introductory training will include an exploration of:

  • The key concepts of Emotionally Focused Therapy
  • The language of emotions – core primary emotions and attachment needs
  • Understanding of Internal Working Models and Attachment Styles
  • Most common Negative Cycles of relationship distress
  • Stages and steps of the EFT model including the key change events in the process of therapy
  • EFT interventions on the basis of clinical material including video clips of live therapy sessions
  • How to work with the couple’s vulnerable emotions by tracking their underlying interactional pattern and helping them to flexibly manage their emotional experience

Participants will engage in experiential exercises, skills and interventions practice, and discussion of clinical examples and video demonstration of a couple session.

Target Audience

The workshop is open to all qualified practicing clinicians working with couples and individuals, psychotherapists, psychologists, social workers, counsellors, including those in training. Practitioners of all modalities are welcome to attend.

Feedback from previous participants:

  • “I can honestly say this has probably been the best course I have ever done! I am left with so much to think through and further reading to be done. Thank you Gulya.”
  • “This course was engaging and inspirational – it makes me feel I have something firmer to hold on to when I feel lost in the room with the couple.”
  • “Gulya is a very warm and engaging trainer. Very useful course. More EFT Please!”
  • “Ignited a huge interest in further learning of EFT. Wonderful, engaging speaker. Good use of different media and exercises to consolidate learning.”
  • “Well-Paced. Good balance between teaching and managing feedback. Always learn from an experienced practitioner – very helpful anecdotal references. Helpful and illuminating videos. The ‘dance’ metaphor for therapy works really well. – Fabulous tango demo!”
  • “Great Day – Gulya was a wonderful teacher and really brought the theory to life. More EFT please - Day two follow up thoroughly needed!”


Gulya Diyarova, MSc Tavistock, PGDip Relate Inst, UKCP,  Accred. COSRT, MBACP, ICEEFT Certified EFT therapist and supervisor, EFT International School, director.

Gulya Diyarova is an ICEEFT Certified Emotionally Focused therapist and supervisor, and a psychosexual and relationship therapist. Her first career in Moscow was as a medical doctor, paediatrician and clinical neurologist. She moved to the UK in 1993 and later retrained in Systemic therapy, Psychodynamic approach, Cognitive-Behavioural Therapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy, Early Attachment and Psychopathology, and also qualified as a Psychosexual therapist. Gulya was instrumental in bringing EFT to the UK and has been organising EFT training in London since 2009 in conjunction with ICEEFT. She is initiator and a founding member of the British EFT Community (BEFT Community). She supervises EFT therapists, leads EFT workshops, CPD groups, EFT Movie Club and EFT Forum, and has a private practice in London. Gulya is Director of the EFT International School and Organising Committee of International EFT Summer Schools. She also founded and is clinical director of Re-Connect EFT Clinic in London.



Event Properties

Start: 04/04/2020 09:45
End: 04/04/2020 16:00
Price £108.00
Location Jurys Inn Brighton
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